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What Happens in Trauma Therapy? A Guide from a Trauma Therapist in Houston
Trauma is everywhere. That’s a scary thought. But because most people know what trauma is, it is important to understand the process of healing one’s trauma through therapy.
There is a growing need for specialized trauma therapists in Houston, because the world is getting harsher and harsher. People are no longer willing to suffer in silence- which is AMAZING!
But sometimes, seeking help for the trauma that has you in a chokehold feels scary. You might have heard horror stories about people who have gone to therapy. Or maybe your mama has warned you to never tell strangers your business.
And as an adult woman, you might also feel like you are way too busy to spend about 1 hour each week talking through trauma.
Today I’m about to help silence your fears and give you some insight into what trauma therapy actually is.
Trauma is everywhere. That’s a scary thought. But because most people know what trauma is, it is important to understand the process of healing one’s trauma through therapy.
There is a growing need for specialized trauma therapists in Houston, because the world is getting harsher and harsher. People are no longer willing to suffer in silence- which is AMAZING!
But sometimes, seeking help for the trauma that has you in a chokehold feels scary. You might have heard horror stories about people who have gone to therapy. Or maybe your mama has warned you to never tell strangers your business.
And as an adult woman, you might also feel like you are way too busy to spend about 1 hour each week talking through trauma.
Today I’m about to help silence your fears and give you some insight into what trauma therapy actually is.
The good news is that trauma therapy doesn’t have to involve a whole lot of time and a whole lot of talking. With unique and cutting edge therapies like brainspotting, you can finally work through your trauma in less time than traditional trauma therapies.
Regardless of what type of therapy you embark on, there will be an element of apprehension. It comes with the territory. But luckily, a very skilled trauma therapist can have you feeling safe and comfortable in very little time.
What Does Trauma Therapy Involve?
Trauma therapy might sound big and scary, but it might not be as bad as you imagine. The first step in trauma therapy is finding a therapist you are comfortable with.
How will you know when you find them? You’ll know. It’s the feeling of “She gets me and I feel safe with her.” Trust your gut always.
Your first session would probably be an assessment session. Your therapist would ask about previous experiences in therapy, what your social life looks like, your upbringing, maybe some childhood experiences, your family life, what brings you into therapy, what you’re looking to get out of therapy, your educational background and work life, your emotional health, physical health and a whole lot more.
Why do we do this?
Because trauma therapy is not cookie cutter. When I know you better, it gives me insight into how to better help you.
During the second session this is when I first introduce brainspotting- which in my opinion, is a much more powerful and effective way to process trauma than traditional talk therapy. The main difference is that with brainspotting, we literally jump straight into the trauma during the second session. Why waste time?
With the power of eye movements and some strategic guidance on my part, I am able to help you access exactly where those emotions and experiences have been trapped in your brain- all in under an hour.
But with talk therapy, it might take multiple sessions before you are able to access the things that have been locked in the recesses of your brain. At first glance, brainspotting might seem a bit harsher than talk therapy, but it gets the work done faster.
There is also no guessing. In traditional talk therapy, your therapist has to gently coax memories out of you. None of that exists during brainspotting. Your brain will naturally guide you to where you need to go- thereby boosting your confidence too.
The Role of a Trauma Therapist in Houston: Guiding You Through Your Healing Journey
My job as a trauma therapist is to be your guide. Although you and I might have different educational backgrounds, I believe that you know yourself better than anyone else. Yes, I am a mental health expert, but you are the expert of your own brain and body.
I understand the unique needs of women, because oftentimes we don’t have the luxury of time to sit still and take care of our own mental health needs.
So in the under 1 hour that you work with me, my job is to help you prioritize yourself, validate yourself, find safety and help give you the tools so that you can continue to function as the high performing woman that you are.
I specifically love that brainspotting is so empowering to women. It helps you feel like you belong in your own body again. You are no longer frightened by the difficult memories. You learn how to ask for what you want, to comfort yourself when you need it, and to express emotions appropriately.
Brainspotting helps you get your power back, because we know that trauma could have you feeling completely weak and stuck.
How Brainspotting Works: A Deeper Look into Trauma Therapy
Brainspotting basically helps stop overthinking, over rationalizing and can help connect you to the more emotional part of your brain. When one goes through trauma, sometimes you shut off the emotional part of you in order to protect yourself. But a fully functioning woman deserves to have full access to both her thoughts and her emotions.
Let’s learn a bit of brain science.
Most of us are engaging the frontal cortex when we talk, when we make everyday decisions. But we typically neglect the emotional centers. But with brainspotting, the frontal cortex gets to take a break (no more overthinking), so that you can have access to the deeper areas of the brain where your emotions are (and where trauma is stored).
Why is this helpful?
Because traumatic emotions literally make you feel like you are trapped. When you are able to access these emotions at a deeper level and digest them, you can be set free from the pain of trauma.
What to Expect During Your First Session with a Trauma Therapist in Houston
After the assessment session that I mentioned previously, you are now ready to begin brainspotting. Yup! Just like that. You don’t need fancy prep work.
The second session is where I introduce brainspotting. You’ll decide what issue or memory you would like as the target of the session. Then I’ll ask you what emotions are coming up for you and where you sense it in your body (brainspotting is really great for helping improve your mind-body connection).
Once this is done, I take a step back and allow you to see what comes up.
It will feel like you are taking a series of wild turns in your brain. Some people talk through it, while others are silent. But it will feel like your thoughts are moving rapidly until you find a resolution. And yes, you will eventually reach a point in the brainspotting session where you feel like you have digested the issue.
Just. Like. That.
If you’ve never experienced brainspotting, I realize this will all sound wacko. But once you experience it, it makes all the sense in the world.
Is Trauma Therapy Right for You? Finding the Best Trauma Therapist in Houston
Now brainspotting feels remarkably different from traditional trauma therapy. For one, your therapist won’t be doing a whole lot of talking. Instead, you will be given the space to explore the emotions as they naturally come up.
I do have to say brainspotting can feel intense, but once you get all the emotions out, the catharsis is HUGE. Some clients say they had the best sleep of their lives after a brainspotting session.
If you are ready to trust the process and truly heal from trauma, then it might be the right type of therapy for you.
Now, on to choosing the right trauma therapist in Houston.
Go with someone whom you feel will listen to you, guide you and will match your general vibe. Ensure that they actually do have training in some type of modality that deals with trauma.
Before selecting a therapist, go through their website, ask to schedule a consultation call so that you can get a sense of their personality. Because if it’s not a cultural fit, it just won’t work.
What do I mean by cultural fit?
For example, when working with me, I literally don’t care how you dress. Show up in a bonnet, a blanket and some pajamas, and I’m fine, as long as you are cozy.
I also inject a lot of slang, laughter and lightness into sessions. Sure we’re working on trauma, but we have to live right? Yup! I also understand the unique needs of immigrants, Christian women, first gen folks and highly sensitive people. So I weave all of this into my work with you.
Ready to take the next step in your healing journey with a trauma therapist in Houston? Click here to book your free consult call for brainspotting trauma therapy and reclaim your life today!
About Me
My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with trauma, anxiety and insomnia.
I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.
Many of my clients are:
4 Sneaky ways in which trauma affects your life (And how to kick it in the butt)
Trauma.
1 huge horrific word.
It’s the boogie man in the closet that you do not speak of for fear that it will eat you up. It’s the thing that has you in a chokehold so you feel like you can’t breathe.
You think you can ignore those horrible things that happened to you and around you, but little do you know that trauma is indeed affecting you.
Trauma.
1 huge horrific word.
It’s the boogie man in the closet that you do not speak of for fear that it will eat you up. It’s the thing that has you in a chokehold so you feel like you can’t breathe.
You think you can ignore those horrible things that happened to you and around you, but little do you know that trauma is indeed affecting you.
Here are 4 sneaky ways that trauma affects your life.
1) You avoid CERTAIN situations, people, places and things
When you go through a traumatic event, you get the idea that anything to do with that event is a red flag. For example, if you were involved in a car accident, every time you go to that specific street, or you see a reminder of the event, you might feel your chest tighten or your palms get sweaty.
At first it seems unproblematic, but over time it begins to get in the way. To use the car crash example, it might stop you from driving altogether. And then you have to start asking for rides, using rideshare programs or walking everywhere (which we know is rough in the Houston summers).
Or maybe you went through a traumatic experience due to being attacked. Every time you see someone who resembles or sounds like the assailant, you might freeze or feel the need to run or fight.
It makes complete sense. Your body is just really trying to protect you.
2) You see danger everywhere you go
Trauma really has you protecting yourself- even when there is no need to actually protect yourself. You might have walked through the world feeling excited and carefree, but trauma changes that.
Suddenly you find yourself feeling closed off in new friendships. Everyone becomes a suspect. You learn how to build a solid wall, but you don’t know how to knock the wall down when you need to have loved ones peek through.
You become a much more hardened version of who you used to be.
And sometimes you see physical danger when you go around. You think so much more about protecting your body and your personal space. It’s exhausting.
3) It haunts your dreams. Literally
Sometimes trauma continues to nag at you- even in your dreams. You spend the entire day feeling happy, and then you shut your eyes, only for trauma to start bothering you.
You might see yourself running away from something or someone. Or you might find yourself revisiting what happened over and over again.
4) You become super defensive or aggressive
Trauma at first makes you feel weak, taken advantage of and small. And so to compensate for this lack, you might become aggressive. Or you might assume people are trying to hurt you, so you defend yourself. Your walls are up, and you might start to get snappy at people. The idea might be, “I don’t need anyone. Let me hurt them before they hurt me.”
Now this keeps you protected, but it also prevents intimacy and closeness.
The good thing is that trauma does not have to ruin your life.
How to kick trauma in the butt
The first step to kicking trauma’s butt is to take a look inward to see if you are indeed ready to do the work. Trauma therapy isn’t for the faint of heart.
If you realize that you are ready to work through your trauma, find yourself a great trauma therapist in Houston. One whose style matches your personality and your goals.
Figure out what style of therapy you want. There is basically talk therapy and non talk therapy. Talk therapy will have you doing a play by play of the trauma and talking through it. But my favorite is- brainspotting trauma therapy . This is a non traditional style of therapy in which we utilize your eye movements to help you access the deeper layers of your brain where trauma and big emotions live. Once we successfully do that, your body takes care of the rest. Brainspotting is basically the cousin on EMDR.
Neve heard of brainspotting trauma therapy in Houston? Watch my videos below.
If you are ready to stop letting trauma control your life, click here to schedule your free 15-minute consultation call for brainspotting trauma therapy in Houston.
About Me
My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with trauma, anxiety and insomnia.
I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.
Many of my clients are:
Everything you need to know about trauma therapy in Houston
We’ve all heard about trauma. And it’s difficult to define. I simply tell my clients that trauma is anything that you define as trauma.
It’s that simple. If it left a mark and it feels like it has you in a chokehold, then it is trauma. I’m not a fan of invalidating your experiences.
But trauma is unfortunately everywhere. Even long after the event or events are over, trauma is a horrible thing that leaves its mark. You try to shake it off, but it seems to have seeped into your bones and pores.
We’ve all heard about trauma. And it’s difficult to define. I simply tell my clients that trauma is anything that you define as trauma.
It’s that simple. If it left a mark and it feels like it has you in a chokehold, then it is trauma. I’m not a fan of invalidating your experiences.
But trauma is unfortunately everywhere. Even long after the event or events are over, trauma is a horrible thing that leaves its mark. You try to shake it off, but it seems to have seeped into your bones and pores.
You lay awake thinking about that horrible thing that happened to you. You find that you’re no longer as friendly or as trusting of others as you used to be. The world now feels darker. Colder.
The good news is that even though trauma left you wounded, it’s possible for us to work together to begin to patch up the wounds. You might be left with some scars, but you don’t have to be permanently defeated.
Today I’m simply going to answer some questions you might have about trauma therapy in Houston. And I’ll let you decide if it’s for you.
Because at the end of the day, you know what’s best for you.
Is Trauma therapy Worth it?
Before you begin on your journey of healing, know that trauma therapy is not for the faint of heart. To heal your trauma, you might have to revisit some of the scary places in your mind. There will be tears, fear, anger, sadness, disdain, and all the other emotions in between, before you finally get to a place of healing, joy and peace.
If you are ready to begin to slowly peel off some of the protective layers that have kept you safe, then I’d say trauma therapy is well worth it for you. But if you are not yet ready to go there, then maybe it’s not the right time for you.
And that’s okay.
If you are thinking, “I’m ready to heal my trauma, but I’m not interested in giving my therapist a play by play of exactly what happened.” Then you have come to the right place. Because there are many different approaches to healing trauma.
With traditional talk therapy, you might have to talk about the exact details of what you experienced. But with a non traditional style like EMDR trauma therapy or Brainspotting trauma therapy, you do not have to go over the gory details of your trauma in order for therapy to be successful.
Click to watch my video “What exactly is brainspotting?
Click to watch my video “How does brainspotting work?
What is the difference between therapy and trauma therapy?
In my opinion, there really isn’t much of a difference. Therapy helps you work towards specific goals, while trauma therapy has its main goal as healing your trauma. Not every therapist is a fan of trauma therapy (because it does take a very specific set of skills to execute the work properly and there is also a risk of the therapist being traumatized too as they hear your stories).
So if you are going to do trauma therapy, ensure that your therapist is indeed a trauma therapist.
How do you know if your therapist is a trauma therapist? Just ask.
What makes a therapist a trauma therapist?
Training.
Let me give you a brief crash course in therapy education. When we get our masters degrees in social work, counseling, psychology or marriage and family therapy, we get an overview of different types of therapy. we are tauught about several different diagnoses and we get snippets on how to intervene. And we also get thousands of hours in face to face practice with real clients.
After we graduate, we can decide to pursue further training in whatever areas we feel will be beneficial to us and our clients.
For example, I have further training in Gottman method couples therapy, Dialectical Behavior therapy, Brainspotting trauma therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia, amongst many others.
In the case of trauma therapists, we have decided to pursue additional trainings in areas that could help our clients heal from trauma. My preference for trauma therapy is brainspotting hands down.
Why do I love brainspotting for trauma?
I like it because it is much gentler than talk therapy. I worked with clients on their traumas for years using traditional Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and I struggled with it. It was exhausting to both me and them. I also found that it just didn't suit my clients who were sick and tired of talking about the gory details of their trauma over and over again.
Talking over and over again about something that has haunted you for years just didn’t seem so helpful.
Another struggle I faced with trauma therapy is it didn’t seem to be a good match for clients of certain cultures. And it is very important to me that I am able to hold space for clients from some of the non dominant cultures.
In some cultures, it really isn’t acceptable to tell everyone and their mama your business. And talk therapy is just that- telling your business.
But with brainspotting trauma therapy, my clients can work on their trauma in silence if they want to. They don’t have to come to me for years and years, and it is still very effective. Brainspotting gets the job done in a much shorter amount of time than talk therapy.
Boom! It’s a win for me and a win for my clients.
My goal as a therapist is to see my clients feel healed and free.
Which therapy is best for past trauma?
I am biased. My preferred approach for trauma therapy is definitely brainspotting. My clients have gotten great results from it. And I don’t change a winning strategy.
Now you can pretty much get great results from other types of trauma therapy, but brainspotting tends to get my clients results pretty quickly. Trauma therapy isn’t easy for anyone, so why not rip the bandage off quickly so we can zoom right on over to the healed part of us?
When not to do trauma therapy
Now although I am a great fan of trauma therapy and trying to stop trauma from controlling you, but trauma therapy isn’t for everyone.
If you do not feel you are ready to go looking for skeletons in your closet, then maybe trauma therapy isn’t for you.
If you do not feel like you are ready to commit to regular therapy sessions, then trauma therapy isn’t your jam.
If your therapist is not indeed a trauma therapist, then please find one.
If it is difficult for you to trust the process, then trauma therapy will be harder. There will be tears and discomfort before we get to the healing part.
And there you have it- some simple nuggets to answer your questions about trauma therapy in Houston.
If you are ready for trauma to stop controlling your entire existence and you want to finally heal what was broken, click here to schedule your free consultation call for brainspotting trauma therapy in Houston.
About Me
My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with trauma, anxiety and insomnia.
I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.
Many of my clients are:
What to do when people call you “Weird.”
One of the biggest struggles that highly sensitive people experience is that their emotions are constantly being invalidated by loved ones and close relatives. It appears that they are misunderstood at every turn. When you're highly sensitive, it is very difficult to actually show up as your true self – especially if that true self is seen as unacceptable or strange to the people around you.
One of the biggest struggles that highly sensitive people experience is that their emotions are constantly being invalidated by loved ones and close relatives. It appears that they are misunderstood at every turn. When you're highly sensitive, it is very difficult to actually show up as your true self – especially if that true self is seen as unacceptable or strange to the people around you.
So highly sensitive people often learn how to mask who they are. They are one person when they are alone, and when they leave their houses and show up in public spaces, they become someone else. Now because high sensitivity comes with deep emotional processing, the process of noticing subtle details in the world, while trying to regulate your emotions, while trying to hide said emotions, can lead to a heap of overwhelm.
And sometimes, it starts at a young age. The kids in the school yard notice that you are a little bit different. Or maybe because you have such a keen sense of observation, you notice that you are different than the people around you. Then someone says something to you. The word ‘Weird’ is thrown around. You then go on a journey to prove to others that you are not indeed weird.
You study the world around you so that you can ‘Adapt’ and ‘Assimilate.’ It seems to work, but as you get older, there is an incongruence. Your heart wants you to be one way, while your head tells you to be someone different. You learn how to excuse yourself before tears stream down your face. Because you know crying in public is forbidden. You learn to ignore rude comments that people make about your sensitivity. But it takes a toll.
Do you know that your life does not have to be that way? It’s possible to enjoy your sensitivity and stand up for yourself when people talk down to you.
Here are some suggestions:
1) Reframe what ‘weird’ means
People tend to be afraid of what they do not understand. And when they are not afraid of what they do not understand, they tend to dismiss what they do not understand.
Remember that highly sensitive people only make up about 20 to 30% of the population, so the other 70 to 80% of the population probably have no idea why you react the way that you do. They have no idea how deep your feelings are and how strong your empathy is. Whenever somebody calls you weird, remind yourself that you are not indeed weird, you are just unique- an outlier. Outliers are misunderstood.
2) Sit with your feelings
Even if you have spent most of your life being ignored on invalidated, it is important to start to validate your own feelings. It is OK to allow yourself to be sad or angry or frustrated. Many highly sensitive people have had to push down their feelings to make other people more comfortable. But it is time to allow yourself to begin to feel a myriad of feelings aside from just joy.
3) stand up for yourself
A big part of healing as a highly sensitive adult is learning how to set boundaries and stand up for yourself. And when I say stand up for yourself, I do not mean being rude or yelling at other people. They are great ways to set boundaries without actually raising your voice or going out of your natural character. For example, if somebody calls you "weird." It is perfectly OK for you to say "I find that statement insulting.” Even if they do not apologize or feel remorse for hurting your feelings, it is still important to stand up for yourself.
There you have it. Three ways to begin to address others when they call you weird. If you're a highly sensitive woman who is tired of putting your needs on the back burner and you're ready to learn more about your sensitivity, get rid of overwhelm and finally learn how to stand up for yourself, click here to schedule your free 15 minute consultation call with me.
I’m a Black therapist in Houston who helps women like you finally learn how to get your needs met without compromising who you are.
About Me
My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali.
I teach highly sensitive women how to stand up for themselves, set clear, kind boundaries and create solid relationships.
Many of my clients are:
Couples who want to regain their friendship and trust
If you’re ready to take the next steps, click here.
A simple 4-step soothing nighttime routine for highly sensitive people
Highly sensitive people are especially prone to feeling stressed out, cranky or overwhelmed when they do not get enough sleep (I know this all too well). It might take you longer to settle in at night, and you might notice that you need more sleep that your adult counterparts.
So if you notice that you need more than 8 hours of sleep- know that it’s totally normal. Here are some things you can do to set you up for a great night of uninterrupted sleep.
Highly sensitive people are especially prone to feeling stressed out, cranky or overwhelmed when they do not get enough sleep (I know this all too well). It might take you longer to settle in at night, and you might notice that you need more sleep that your adult counterparts.
So if you notice that you need more than 8 hours of sleep- know that it’s totally normal. Here are some things you can do to set you up for a great night of uninterrupted sleep.
1) Take some time to unwind after your work day
One of the struggles that highly sensitive people often face is that there is difficulty transitioning from one activity to the other. For example, it might be hard for you to settle down when you come home from work. I don’t suggest you just plop into your bed and expect your body to shut down.
Rather, carve out 10 to 30 minutes engaging in an activity that can take your mind off all the stressful activities of the day. This can look like eating a yummy meal, engaging on the phone with a funny friend, listening to some music and dancing as you go along, a podcast, prayer, changing out of your clothes, etc. You might have to try a few activities to figure out what will work for you. And if you don’t like baths (‘cos the internet seems to love bubble baths), you don’t ever have to take one.
P.S: If you are a parent to a little one, you might not have the luxury of carving out 30 minutes. Just do what you can. It gets easier. I promise!
2) Reflect on your day
Had a bad day? Well don’t just pull the covers over your head and expect your brain to forget. Many people spend about an hour tossing and turning in bed because they have not adequately processed the emotions that came up during the day.
It sometimes feels like your heart is pounding out of your chest as you think over the stressors of your day. Sit in a quiet place and allow yourself to do what feels natural- talk it through with someone if that helps. Some people like to pray about it. Others journal, still others talk to themselves about it.
Don’t sleep on talking to yourself. It sounds funny, but feels good.
3) Spend 5 minutes tidying up your bedroom
I often say that your bedroom is your sanctuary. It’s the place your tired mind and body get to spend a huge amount of time. It’s the place where cellular turnover happens. It should be a place of peace, calm and joy.
Highly sensitive people can easily get overstimulated with clutter. But the irony is that we can quickly create clutter when we are in a busy season or going through a lot.
But if you spend 5 minutes at the end of each day tidying up, you’ll save yourself some headache. Try this practice and watch your life change
P.S: I’m also an insomnia expert, so here’s a link to my previous blog posts on everything sleep.
4) Get rid of distractions
Before going into the bed, think of anything that could possibly wake you up from sleep (aside from little ones) and figure out how to silence those things for the next 8-10 hours.
This can include social media notifications, text notifications, television, your laptop, annoyingly bright lights, itchy sheets, labels in your pajamas, uncomfortable room temperature, etc.
The next time you lay in bed, think of things that have bothered you- then get rid of them. For example, if you notice that the sun hits you in the face every morning, consider closing the blinds before going to bed.
A soothing nighttime routine doesn't have to be elaborate or expensive. It’s just something you have to be consistent with.
What is 1 thing you have to do before going to bed? I’d love to find out.
If you’re a highly sensitive woman who is looking to finally understand sensitivity, learn how to manage overwhelm and stand up for yourself, click here to schedule your free 15-minute consult call with me. I’d love to connect with you.
My framework for helping highly sensitive women understand sensitivity, stand up for themselves and get rid of overwhelm.
About Me
My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali.
I teach highly sensitive women how to stand up for themselves, set clear, kind boundaries and create solid relationships.
Many of my clients are:
Couples who want to regain their friendship and trust
If you’re ready to take the next steps, click here.
Overwhelmed? Here's how to quickly calm your highly sensitive brain
One of the biggest struggles of high sensitivity is the constant feeling of overwhelm. Because you feel so deeply and you are processing stimuli around you so much, it is quite easy to fall into the trap of constant overwhelm.
Overwhelm isn’t something we can escape altogether, because everyone has seasons in which they are pulled to absolute capacity. However, when we are in those seasons, there are ways to take a step back and regain our calm.
Here’s how:
1) Turn off as much stimulation as you can
One of the fastest ways to quiet an overwhelmed mind is to turn off as much stimulation as you can. Think of your five senses.
If the lights around you are super bright, consider dimming them or moving to a space with very low light. If there's a lot of sound around you, turn some of it off. This could be your computer, your phone, your TV, or just step away for a moment from all the noise around you.
If you're wearing multiple layers or your clothing feels itchy or uncomfortable, it might be time to change into something more comfortable if you are able to do so. Turning off the immediate stimulation helps to quiet down some of the noise so that you can move through the other steps I'm about to talk about.
2) Do a positive replay of your day
If you are feeling completely overwhelmed, it might be time to think about what went well that day. Run your mind through some of the positive aspects of the day. This is the opposite of what we typically do- we think about everything we have going on and what is going wrong. Focus on 1 positive thing.
3) Get some sleep or rest
I have always had an obsession with sleep. One of the quickest ways to reset is just to lay down and close your eyes. Even if you're not able to sleep, just give your body a chance to restart or shut off for a moment. Power naps are typically helpful if you're able to do so, or just sit somewhere quiet and close your eyes for a while. When you're doing this, try really hard not to think about everything that you have going on. Just focus on the world around you think of sights, sounds and smells. Music can help to relax the mind and body.
4) Call a friend
One of the biggest traps that introverted highly sensitive people will fall into is the trap of isolation. When you have tried to unspiral yourself and it is not successful, it is very important that you have someone safe who you can turn to. This person does not even have to be highly sensitive, they just have to be somebody who is full of empathy. You can even pick a codeword with a friend. And the friend will just fill you with positivity, and help you shift your mind in a different direction. The goal is not for them to lie to you, the goal is just to help you shift your mind so that you can take a break and then go back into calm shape.
You in turn have to be comfortable with vulnerability and asking for help.
And there you have it. 4 simple ways to nip overwhelm in the bud.
Ready to master your sensitivity so you can reduce overwhelm, stand up for yourself and set better boundaries? Click here to schedule your free 15-min consult call.
About Me
My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali.
I teach highly sensitive women how to stand up for themselves, set clear, kind boundaries and create solid relationships.
Many of my clients are:
Couples who want to regain their friendship and trust
If you’re ready to take the next steps, click here.
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