Christian Therapist for women with anxiety and trauma throughout CA & TX
Why brainspotting works wonders for high performing women
Discover why Brainspotting is a game-changer for high-performing women. This trauma therapy method goes beyond traditional approaches, offering fast, gentle healing that targets your mind and body. Learn how Brainspotting can help you set boundaries, overcome overwhelm, and thrive in all areas of life.
Why High-Performing Black Women in Houston are Turning to Brainspotting Therapy
More and more women are flocking to therapy. Why? Because they are realizing that they don’t want to carry the emotional load all by themselves. And when you specifically talk about Black women who have historically carried entire households on their back, they are tired of the narrative of the strong Black woman.
Black women want to be soft. We want to laugh, cry, get angry, feel frustrated, be loved, seen and treated like humans too. We have hopes and dreams, that have historically been overlooked. We’ve had to put walls up to protect ourselves and our loved ones. And now, for you, the Black woman who is a leader and high performer, you also want your emotional needs to be met.
Because high performers often thrive when there is efficiency and speed, brainspotting is a great therapy of choice. Brainspotting therapy is effective, gentle and gets the job done. It connects you to yourself, helps you heal deep parts of your brain and doesn’t waste your time.
How Brainspotting Delivers Fast, Gentle Relief for High-Achievers
For Houston’s top performing women who don’t have any time to waste, brainspotting therapy is a great way to get rid of anxiety and trauma without spending an unusual amount of time in therapy. Brainspotting therapy essentially is a fast way to get access to the deep layers of your brain where trauma and big emotions are stored.
In a nutshell, brainspotting is a way to get the same results of talk therapy in a much shorter amount of time. During a brainspotting session, you are not solely relying on the educated guesses of your therapist. rather, your brainspotting trained therapist is utilizing an amazing therapy modality to help you access areas of your brain where huge emotions and memories are stored, so you can process, digest and be done with those strong triggers.
The results? It’s basically, fast, gentle relief for high achievers. No more nightmares, night sweats, crying, avoiding activities you used to love and being controlled by the past.
Beyond Talk Therapy: Why Houston’s Trauma Therapists Recommend Brainspotting
So I love talk therapy just as much as the next therapist, however I have to be honest, talk therapy is really no match for brainspotting. Brainspotting accesses much deeper layers of the brain than talk therapy ever could. The results you notice from brainspotting are much quicker than those of talk therapy, and it just seems that brainspotting is so much more efficient than talk therapy when we are targeting trauma.
My clients who have experienced trauma see results in much fewer sessions than when they do talk therapy. In fact, brainspotting is my preferred style of therapy when it comes to trauma. Brainspotting is simply fast acting. Usually in 1-3 sessions, you already notice the difference. I can’t promise these same results for talk therapy.
From Perfectionism to Peace: Brainspotting for the Highly Sensitive, High-Performing Woman
One of my favorite things about brainspotting is that it is great for getting you unstuck. If you have had a specific issue that you just can’t kick, then let’s utilize brainspotting. Many of my clients have tried traditional talk therapy unsuccessfully, and so they use brainspotting to finally resolve the issue.
Issues like perfectionism can be addressed using brainspotting. I can’t promise you that you will never have thoughts around perfectionism, however, brainspotting can help bring you a sense of peace and closure.
Brainspotting is even helpful when you are about to make a big decision or if you have a particular area of stuck-ness like writer’s block or difficulty making executive decisions at work. I especially love brainspotting for highly sensitive women because of how gentle it is on the body. Of course some sessions will feel difficult, however, it gets the job done.
Supporting High-Achieving Black Women’s Mental Health: The Brainspotting Advantage
As a Black therapist in Houston, I usually recommend brainspotting for people who have tried talk therapy before with very little results. I also love to recommend brainspotting therapy of course, for people who feel like they are being controlled by trauma and who just want to go about their lives without constant fear or anxiety. The third group of women I like to recommend brainspotting to are women who feel all talked out. They don’t want to go on and on about their problems, but they want a solution. They are ready to dig deep, feel more connected to their minds and ready to continue performing at a high level.
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About Me
My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with trauma, anxiety and insomnia.
I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.
Many of my clients are:
Couples who want to regain their friendship and trust
Virtual Trauma Therapy: How to Heal from Trauma Without Leaving Your Houston Home
Heal your trauma from the comfort of your home with virtual therapy. As a trauma therapist in Houston, I specialize in brainspotting, a powerful and gentle approach to help high-performing and highly sensitive women overcome trauma. Experience effective trauma recovery without the commute. Schedule a free consultation today and start your healing journey.
Healing from Home in Houston
You’ve been struggling for a while. You’re also curious about starting therapy, but you’re unsure. Do you really have the time to drive through Houston traffic with your already overpacked schedule? Are you ready to hear whatever the therapist has to say? And are you ready to put in the work? The process of finding a great therapist in Houston can be daunting, but once you’ve found the right one, your life will change. I guarantee it.
If time and traffic constraints are keeping you from seeking therapy, I present to you that virtual trauma therapy in Houston is a convenient and effective solution for you.
No office visits, no parking issues, no being stuck in traffic. All you need is an electronic device, internet access and a willing heart. Boom!
What is Virtual Trauma Therapy? A Modern Approach to Healing
Virtual trauma therapy is essentially therapy using the internet. Some therapists do phone sessions, while others add a video component to it. I prefer real-time video sessions because I can see you, you can see me and it feels like a regular conversation.
And once we add the layer of groundbreaking trauma therapy like brainspotting, it works amazingly over video. In fact, I received all my brainspotting trainings through video. That way I am sure that it’ll work for you.
After the pandemic of 2020, most therapists had to take a crash course in virtual therapy. Although prior to the pandemic I was already conducting both phone and video sessions. But after the pandemic hit, it was clear that we therapists had to figure out how to provide effective care to our clients regardless of whatever is going on in society. The great part about it is that it is not only convenient for you, it’s just as effective as in person therapy.
Benefits of Virtual Trauma Therapy for High-Performing Women
I love virtual sessions because they are flexible. I’ve had clients attend sessions while in their cars, in their bedrooms, in their kitchens, in between meetings, in hotel rooms, and at work. There is sometimes a fear that occurs when you are entering a therapist’s space. It is already dffiicult enough to open up and trust a therapist you’ve just met, let’s not add another barrier to it.
Highly sensitive women are especially vulnerable to their environments. Something as small as the smell of the therapist’s perfume or the rough texture of the couch can distract them from their own personal healing. Wouldn’t it be great for you to work on healing within our own safe space?
When I was only offering in person therapy sessions, location and distance were huge barriers. Some clients didn’t have reliable transportation, they had other life responsibilities that got in the way or they just couldn’t fit therapy into their busy schedules. With virtual therapy you’re saving probably about 30 minutes-1 hour each session, depending on the therapist’s distance to your home or place of employment.
I love that my clients can dress comfortably while they remain in the comfort of their own environment. You can snuggle up in your bonnet, with your favorite blanket, while wearing house shoes and drinking from your favorite mug. All of these things not only give you comfort but they provide space for you to open up in therapy. An open, comfortable client will receive better results than one who is struggling to open up.
How Brainspotting Works in a Virtual Setting
Brainspotting primarily focuses on eye gaze. When we do brainspotting online, because your field of vision is limited to the size of the screen, it allows you to really focus on the work. All the distractions that would have come from my office (the couch, the rug, my diffuser, items on my wall, smells, sounds) are gone. This way you can focus more on the work of processing trauma and engaging.
Some clients worry that virtual therapy is not as effective as in person therapy. Well that isn’t true. Because I am using the exact same skills and training to guide you. It’s just like saying you are unable to communicate with your loved ones because you’re talking through FaceTime.
When I utilize virtual brainspotting, I can actually focus on your brainspot a lot easier because I simply mark it on my computer screen. When we are in person, It is almost impossible for me to keep my hand so steady for an entire hour and move it to the brainspot you identified. If you’ve ever attended a brainspotting, all of this will sound like gibberish to you. That’s okay.
What to Expect in Your First Virtual Trauma Therapy Session
To prepare for a virtual brainspotting session or a virtual trauma therapy session, think about location. As long as you have a device that has access to the internet, and a place that offers some sort of privacy, you’re good to go. If you’re attending therapy in your busy living room, the entire family will be listening in on your business and they might be tempted to chime in. I’m pretty sure you don’t want that.
So pick a space where you can be focused and alone for about an hour. Emotionally, you don’t really have to do much. Brainspotting doesn’t involve any pre-work or preparation. Come with a willing, curious heart.
For maximum effectiveness, make sure you are comfortable in your environment. Prop your phone or device up so that you don’t have to tilt your neck in session and your hands can be free. I also advice that you bring a glass of water, some tissues (because tears happen in therapy) and a comfort object if you need one. Shoes are optional- wear them or don’t. It’s up to you. I will only be able to see you from about the chest up.
During the session, let go of distractions like the TV, place your devices on silent or do not disturb and let the people in your home or office know that you need about 1 hour of uninterrupted time.
Finding the Right Trauma Therapist in Houston for Virtual Sessions
It is important to note that not every therapist provides brainspotting or virtual therapy. So if you're specifically looking for someone who does brainspotting, you would have to ask them if they're open to virtual brainspotting. Another thing that you can ask them is if they have actually conducted virtual brainspotting sessions and how it has gone for them. It is also important to note that not every trauma therapist has been trained in brainspotting. It is a science backed game changing form of therapy that actually helps you heal trauma from the deeper levels of your brain. The results? A life free from fear, avoidance and the dissociation that trauma causes.
After you have found a brainspotting therapist in Houston who offers virtual therapy, it is also important to ask yourself what else you need. Think of the therapist’s age, gender, religious background, personality and also cost. How much are you willing to invest? I do have to say that in the long run, brainspotting tends to save you more money because your trauma heals fast and you will be attending fewer sessions than if you were only to attend talk therapy. As a high-performing woman I know you enjoyed value for money as well as efficiency. You don't have time to waste.
As a high performer or highly sensitive woman, ensure that your therapist is knowledgable about your unique needs. Scour their website or directory profile to find out if they make mention of these terms. And when you meet with them for a consultation, ask them directly if they understand your unique needs.
Embrace the Power of Virtual Trauma Therapy
I love brainspotting. I especially love that I am able to help my clients heal their brains and their bodies from the comfort of their own homes and offices. We all know that Houston traffic can be crazy, so don't get involved in it if you don’t have to. Find a great brainspotting therapist who can help you heal trauma and anxiety without leaving your own comfortable environment. Support is just a click away and healing can happen in the comfort of your own space.
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About Me
My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with trauma, anxiety and insomnia.
I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.
Many of my clients are:
How to become an active listener in your marriage in 5 easy steps
One of the biggest struggles that I notice during marriage counseling, is that couples do a pretty poor job of listening to one another. In the moment, things get heated, and you realize you have no idea how to effectively listen to your spouse.
You see, when most people hear their spouse speaking, they are running through all of their possible responses - instead of listening to what their spouse has to say. If you struggle with poor communication in your marriage, here is a simple way to become a better active listener in your marriage. Better communication in marriage helps improve your closeness and intimacy.
One of the most prevalent concerns I see in Houston relationship therapy is couples that don't listen to one another. Things get heated at the moment, and you realize you have no idea how to listen to your partner correctly.
Better communication in marriage contributes to increased closeness and intimacy. When most people hear their spouse speak, they think about their possible responses rather than listening to what their spouse is saying. Here's a straightforward approach to improve communication in your marriage if you're having trouble improving your active listening skills.
Before we dive in, what exactly is active listening?
Most couples come to Christian marriage counseling in Houston saying they want a stronger connection. Active listening is listening intently to grasp better what your partner is saying. It helps create empathy and connection in a relationship.
On the other hand, passive listening is listening just because or listening while waiting for your spouse to stop talking so that you can finish up whatever you are saying.
Active listening helps improve intimacy and connection. Passive listening is self-serving and doesn't do anything to improve your relationship. And if you'd like to improve your communication in marriage, you want to become pretty good at active listening.
So, here are the steps to become a better active listener in your marriage or relationship.
1) Allow your spouse to speak without interruptions.
Listen without saying anything while your spouse is talking about something essential. All your energy should ensure you hear every last word. Focus on his body language gives you a little clue about how he feels. It's critical to fight the impulse to correct or defend yourself.
It seems easy, but it's pretty tricky, so I practice with my Couples counseling in Houston.
This seems easy, but it’s actually quite difficult- which is why I practice with my couples who are in marriage counseling.
2.)Repeat what you heard him say.
So often, when we are trying to listen to others, we pass what they are saying through our mental filter. Sometimes what we hear them say is not what they're saying.
It is when miscommunication and arguments happen in relationships. Instead of clarifying, we argue back and forth. To avoid arguments, after every sentence or 2, pause your spouse and repeat back what you heard him say.
If he agrees with you correctly, he can move on to the following sentence. If you misheard him, he gets to clarify. Please don't blame him for the wording. Focus on trying to understand him.
It is another crucial step when clients work with me during marriage counseling in Houston.
3) Suspend judgment and the need to defend yourself. Marriage is not war.
Marriage is not war. I say this all the time during marriage therapy in Houston. A healthy marriage comprises two partners who are willing to communicate and understand each other. To achieve that, you should benefit your spouse from the doubt. Expect and assume that your spouse only wants what is best for you and your marriage. Because marriage is not war, you do not have to defend yourself. So when your spouse is speaking, do not jump in to defend yourself. Take some deep breaths and try to get to the bottom of what he is trying to say. Make it about him- not you.
The best marriage counselors in Houston will let you know that preconceived assumptions can cause trouble in relationships.
4) Put your empathy hat on.
One thing Houston relationship therapist is: "Trying to understand why your spouse is feeling this way." Put your feelings aside and try to empathize with him. When you can empathize, lower your guard to come to a resolution with him. It involves teamwork. Remember that your spouse is your partner, and your joint enemy is disagreement. So work together to overcome it.
5) Respond appropriately by validating your spouse. It's a great way to have a peaceful marriage.
After you have spent time actively listening to your spouse, and It is done with his side of the story, it's time to validate him. Most Houston couples in therapy do not validate enough. They jump straight from talking about the issue to trying to fix it. But they miss a huge step. Validation is the key to repairing when there's a misunderstanding. Validation doesn't necessarily mean you agree with what your spouse is saying. Validation helps your spouse feel seen and increases connection.
After completing the above steps, you can talk about your side of the story. Hopefully, your partner will also follow the above steps.
What will active listening do for your marriage?
If you are ready to improve the communication in your marriage to form a much deeper connection with your spouse, click here to schedule a free 15-minute consultation call with me (I'm a Black marriage therapist in Houston seeing clients in Texas and throughout the Murrieta area). Remember, marriage isn't war.
About The Author
My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with anxiety and insomnia. I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.
Many of my clients are:
Couples who want to regain their friendship and trust
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