How to treat insomnia without medications

If you’re an insomniac, chances are you have Googled every possible sleep remedy out there. Maybe you’ve even been prescribed sleeping pills to help you get the sleep you’ve been yearning for. But did you know that there are natural remedies you could try at home without getting on medications? Here are some tips to treat your insomnia without medications:

1) Utilize your 5 senses: When you have insomnia, your body has a natural stress reaction when it’s time to sleep. The problem with this is that your body has a hard time resting when you’re stressed out. To counter the effects of stress, you have to trick your body into being relaxed at bedtime so that it can actually shut down. To do this, try to engage your five senses.

Sense of smell: You can engage your sense of smell by using calming scents. It’s always advisable to stay away from synthetic fragrances that could trigger respiratory problems or allergies. Reach for calming essential oils such as lavender. Some people apply it topically, while others put a few drops in a diffuser right before bedtime.

Sense of sight: Your bedroom should be welcoming to look at. Paint your walls in a relaxing tone so that you feel enveloped in warmth every time you walk into your bedroom. When you come home after a long day, spend 10 minutes to put away clutter and any other stray items that are around you. The goal is to have your room feel like a sanctuary so that when you walk in, your brain automatically feels relaxed. Create your own spa-like environment.

Sense of touch: Wash your sheets regularly- perhaps weekly. That way your body only comes in contact with fabrics that feel cozy and relaxing. Dirty, rough sheets can be quite uncomfortable and discomfort certainly will not promote relaxing sleep. Utilize soft sheets and cozy fabrics so that you can just sink into it without having to think too much about it.

Sense of taste: An hour before bedtime, create a winding down routine for yourself. Some people like to drink herbal non caffeinated teas, others reach for a glass of water. It doesn't matter which one you go for, as long as it feels soothing to you. However, avoid drinking alcohol or caffeine a few hours before bed as alcohol can ruin your deep sleep, while caffeine can keep you awake longer at night.

Sense of Hearing: To create a relaxing environment that promotes sleep, consider utilizing a white noise machine or even using sounds of nature. Some people like the sound of the waves, while others like the sound of thunder. It doesn't matter which sound you choose, as long as it sounds relaxing to you.

2) Watch your caffeine use: Many insomniacs rely heavily on caffeine to keep them awake during the day. The problem with drinking multiple cups of coffee is that your body doesn’t get a chance to fully eliminate the caffeine in your system before bedtime. So if you drink multiple cups of coffee each day, chances are your body will still be filled with caffeine by bedtime, thereby keeping you awake. The solution? Don’t drink caffeine after 12pm.

3) Open up your blinds: When you wake up in the morning, open up your blinds. When the sunlight hits your eyes, your body begins to produce adenosine, which sends a signal to your brain to wake you up. The longer you stay up during the day, the stronger the urge for sleep at night will be. So even though you might be exhausted from insomnia in the morning, make an attempt to open up your blinds so that some sunlight can come in. Your body will thank you later.

4) Create a bedtime routine: When you were younger, I bet you your guardian or parent had a set bedtime for you. But chances are as you got older and you began to have more freedom, and you became more and more lax about bedtime. When you have a regular bedtime and a nighttime routine, your body knows when it’s expected to rest and when it’s expected to relax. So, set a specific bedtime and wake up time each day for the next two weeks and notice the difference it’ll make with your sleep quality.

5) Drop the phone and tablet: So we all know that technology can be our friend. However if you’ve formed the habit of holding on to your phone at night, its time to break up with it. Many phones and tablets emit a blue light that prevents the body from producing melatonin. And your body needs melatonin to sleep well at night. The solution? Put away phones and tablets an hour before bed. I know it might me hard to break the habit, but the results will blow your mind.

What is one change you’d like to make regarding your sleep? If you currently struggle with insomnia and you are looking for help getting a good night’s sleep, call 951-905-3181. I provide insomnia treatment in Murrieta and online. You can also email me here to schedule a free 15- minute phone consultation so that you can learn how to get rid of insomnia.

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What exactly is insomnia?

I’ve heard quite a lot of people say “I have insomnia,” but did you know that not everyone who struggles with sleep actually has insomnia? According to the National Sleep Foundation, insomnia can be described as “Difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep, even when a person has the chance to do so.” Insomnia can either be acute or chronic.

Acute insomnia occurs for a short period of time, and is often because of something happening in your life. For example, a new baby, a relocation, temporary change in your work schedule, short term stress or a death in the family. After the stressful situation has passed, your sleep will sometimes return to normal.

Chronic insomnia on the other hand, is insomnia that occurs about three times a week and lasts for about three months. This is typically the type of insomnia that I see in my practice. Sometimes this type of insomnia is caused by physical health problems, anxiety, depression, medication side effects, or even one’s environment. Individuals with chronic insomnia often feel frustrated and discouraged from the constant lack of sleep. They might notice impairment in their work and it could even affect their relationships and energy levels.

Now that you know about acute and chronic insomnia, let’s talk about the criteria for insomnia according to the DSM 5, which is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th edition. It’s essentially the encyclopedia for mental health disorders:

A) Being dissatisfied with the quantity or quality of sleep and with the following symptoms:

1) Difficulty initiating sleep.

2) Difficulty maintaining sleep (waking up frequently and having difficulty going back to sleep upon awakening).

3) Waking up early in the morning and not being able to go back to sleep.

B. The disturbance in sleep causes a significant impairment in your social, educational or occupational functioning. This means you might be falling asleep at work, you might not go out with friends because you’re too tired or you might make mistakes at work.

C. The difficulty with sleep occurs for at least 3 nights a week.

D. The difficulty with sleep occurs for at least 3 months.

E. Difficulty sleeping despite opportunities to sleep. This means even though you have a cozy bed and an opportunity to lay down, you still are unable to sleep. This is quite different from someone who cannot sleep because he or she does not have a place to sleep due to homelessness, war or an unsafe situation.

F. The insomnia cannot be explain by another sleep disorder (such as narcolepsy or a breathing disorder). Sometimes one might think one has insomnia, but upon visiting the doctor, you might realize that you have problems with your breathing or you might even have another sleep disorder, which better explains your sleep woes.

G. The sleep disturbance isn’t being caused by substance use. Some substances such as alcohol or stimulants might actually keep you up for long periods of time or disturb your sleep long term.

H. Other mental health disturbances aren’t causing the difficulty sleeping. Sometimes other mental health disorders such as generalized anxiety, phobias, panic disorder, depression or Bipolar disorder could better explain the reason why you’re not sleeping.

So there you have it. A detailed explanation of what insomnia is. If you have read through the above criteria, and you believe you are struggling with insomnia, there is hope. CBT for insomnia is the gold standard for insomnia treatment. If you’re in the Murrieta/Temecula area and you’re ready to get the best sleep of your life, call 951-905-3181 for your free 15 minute phone consultation to see if CBT for insomnia is right for you. I also provide online insomnia treatment for people within California. Get the sleep you deserve now.

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5 Causes of insomnia you should know about

Insomnia can feel like an awful burden. The constant tossing and turning before you finally drift off to sleep. The hours and hours spent staring at the ceiling can be so frustrating. I’ve heard people say “My dad had insomnia, so I have it too.” That type of thinking makes one give up- as if it is hereditary. The good news I have for you is that insomnia does not have to be a lifelong curse. You can indeed find a cure for your insomnia. But before we get into insomnia treatments, let’s focus on 5 things that might be preventing you from getting the quality sleep you deserve:

1) Alcohol use: I’ve heard a lot of people use the term “Night cap” to refer to a nightly drink of alcohol. We even see it in the movies. You sit back, pour a glass of wine and use it as a relaxation tool after a long day of work. While a glass of wine in itself isn’t bad for you, the quantity of alcohol you drink as well as the time you drink it could be affecting your sleep. Now I’m well aware that many people feel relaxed after a glass of wine and might even drift off to a cozy sleep. But for others, alcohol actually affects their sleep quality.

Alcohol can actually shorten the length of your deep sleep and also create fragmented sleep. So in a bid to cure your sleep problems with alcohol, you actually end up with shorter sleep and your sleep becomes disturbed throughout the night. This could lead to more night time awakenings and more tiredness in the morning. So to be on the safe side, either avoid alcohol a few hours before bed, or don’t drink it at all.

2) Screen time: We live in a digital world. We are glued to our electronic devices more than ever before. While technology can be very helpful with daily tasks, our devices can actually prevent us from getting the sleep we crave. Cell phones and tablets emit a blue light that send a signal to the brain, preventing it from producing melatonin. And we need melatonin for sleep. So to be safe, put aside your devices an hour before bedtime. Give your body time to produce the melatonin it needs to relax for the night.

3) Exercise: You’ve heard that 30 minutes of exercise a day is recommended for a healthy body. Exercise is also great for your heart, your lungs, and many other organs. However if you exercise at the wrong time, you might actually be preventing sleep and triggering insomnia. When you work out, your body temperature increases, and signals to your brain that you should wake up. After a few hours, your body temperature will naturally fall, signaling to your brain that you should get ready to sleep. But if you exercise too close to bed time, your body temperature will rise, and your body might not know that you should be getting ready to sleep. If you struggle with insomnia, limit exercise to no less than 4 hours before your bedtime, so you can give your body a chance to reduce its temperature and produce melatonin for sleep.

4) Irregular bedtime: We all know that bedtimes are great for kids, but the problem is that some adults completely do away with the idea of a bedtime due to busy work schedules, irregular traveling schedules, or personal commitments. The thing is your body works like a well oiled machine. When you sleep at odd times, your body becomes unsure of when it is expected to rest. The solution? If you struggle with insomnia or some other sleep disorder, go to bed within the same hour each day. Create a good routine for yourself so that your body knows when to shut down and when to wake up each day.

5) Uncomfortable surroundings: Your bedroom should feel like a sanctuary. But for many, the bedroom doubles as a work room or an office. While this might be practical, it could confuse your body into thinking that nighttime is work time, rather than sleep time. If your bedroom is filled with clutter, your sheets are dirty and rough, or your bedroom smells old and stale, all these factors could prevent your body from feeling relaxed enough to shut down. Let’s face it, you wouldn’t feel relaxed in an uncomfortable environment either. If you can, take your computer out of your bedroom. Wash your sheets regularly and air out your room regularly so that fresh air can come in. You’ll notice the difference in your sleep quality.

If you are struggling with insomnia and your unsure of how to treat it, I provide insomnia treatment in Murrieta and online. Call 951-905-3181 to schedule a free consultation to see if CBT for insomnia treatment will help you get the sleep you’ve been yearning for. You an also email me here.

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Is Suicide Preventable?

Suicide Prevention Week is September 8th-14th, 2019

During this week individuals and organizations around the country join their voices to broadcast the message that suicide can be prevented, and to reach as many people as possible with the tools and resources to support themselves and those around them. The theme of Suicide Prevention Week is Finding Purpose: Caring for Ourselves and Others. It truly takes whole communities joining together to make a difference – from individuals and families to workplaces, government agencies, and community organizations. 

Is suicide preventable?

In the last couple of years several well-known figures in the food and entertainment industries, died by suicide, and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported that suicide rates rose in nearly every state in the U.S. Many of us have been personally impacted by the death of someone we know or someone we love. The problem can sometimes seem insurmountable.

You may have heard people asking, or asked yourself: “Is suicide preventable?” 

The causes of suicide are complex, and so are the solutions. Asking “why” when we lose someone is natural, but suicide can’t be attributed to a single cause. Preventing suicide requires sustained, broad-based efforts involving many sectors of the community and reaching into people’s relationships with friends and family. Working together, we can develop a comprehensive safety net for ourselves, friends and loved ones that includes prevention, early intervention, and support for those who are struggling, have attempted, or have lost someone to suicide.

There are reasons for hope!

The next time you hear someone ask “Is suicide preventable”, or you ask this question yourself, the answer lies partly in recognizing how much we do know about preventing suicide. 

 Did you know that:

·     Effective suicide prevention strategies exist that can reduce suicidal thinking and behavior? Some programs take place within clinical settings, and others are based in the community, but evaluation studies and research have shown that they can help. Find out more about these programs by checking out the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s Technical Package

·     National initiatives are underway that are enhancing suicide prevention in health care settings (e.g.zerosuicide.sprc.org) and within industries (e.g. Construction Industry Alliance for Suicide Prevention, www.cfma.org) and workplaces.

·     National and local efforts are helping us to change the conversation about suicide to one of hope and help and to encourage effective messagingaround suicide prevention. And as a result, more often we see compassionate portrayals and responses in media and in the entertainment industry after a suicide death.

·     The Know the Signs campaign is helping Californians to Know the Signs, Find the Words, and Reach Out to help someone they are concerned about. Check out the web site in Englishor Spanishtoday.

What is your role in suicide prevention?

While not every suicide can be prevented, by joining together throughout communities, we can reduce risk. Everyone has a role to play and a contribution to make. 

·     Visit the Each Mind Matters Resource Center for suicide prevention resources in many different languages.

·     Be ready and aware: learn the warning signs and how to help by visiting suicideispreventable.orgor by participating in a local training.

·     Reach out to local organizations, county agencies, or a crisis center to learn more about how you can support their work. 

·     Forge connections within your community-  check in with friends, family members, co-workers or neighbors who are struggling.

More ideas can be found in the online 2019 Each Mind Matters Suicide Prevention Week Activation Kit.

Add Your Voice to World Suicide Prevention Day

Tuesday, Sept. 10, 2019 is World Suicide Prevention Day. This is an opportunity to join millions of others around the globe to focus public attention on preventing suicide through diverse activities to promote understanding about suicide and highlight effective prevention activities. For example:  Light a candlenear a window at 8pm to show your support, remember a lost loved one, and for the survivors of suicide. Click here to find e-cards or postcards in 62 languages.

The Know the Signs campaign is one of several statewide initiatives funded by counties through the voter-approved Mental Health Services Act (Prop 63).  These efforts are administered by the California Mental Health Services Authority (CalMHSA) and are part of Each Mind Matters:  California’s Mental Health Movement.

More Resources

And if you are in need of some more resources, click here for this depression resource guide from The Recovery Village.

Will marriage therapy in Houston work for you?

When you are struggling in your marriage, it can feel like a stifling, never ending roller coaster. One day things look good, then out of the blue, arguments just show up. You can feel like you're having the same old argument over and over again.

Perhaps you've heard people talk about the wonders of couples therapy or marriage counseling. You’ve thought about it, but you don't know if it's going to be a waste of time or money.

Here's how to know if marriage therapy couples therapy in Houston will work for you.

Are you willing to tell the truth?

The process of marriage counseling is no joke. You have to be willing to tell the truth about your situation, and you have to be willing to talk about sore topics. If you are not 100% committed to telling the truth about past events, then marriage counseling will definitely not work for you.

Are you willing to do the marriage counseling homework?

If you happen to work with me, then you know that I give homework after every single session. I actually believe that most of the work of marriage counseling or couples therapy actually happens outside of session. But if you're willing to implement what you're actually learning in session and actually do the homework, then your marriage will see a drastic change. If you do not do the homework, then your marriage will continue to stay the same. But if you're willing to implement what you're actually learning in session and actually do the homework, then your marriage will see a drastic change.

Are you willing to change past habits and learn a new dance while you’re in couples therapy?

Most people come to marriage counseling because the patterns they have been used to for years are either destructive or are causing them a level of pain. The problem is because you are so used to the way things have been, you might not be willing to change them. Even though you don't like the way things are going, but your behavior has become a habit or maybe your behavior is now a part of your character. If you are willing to learn a new couple’s dance, then there is hope for your marriage.

Are you willing to do the work it takes to find the right couples therapist in houston for you and your spouse?

The process of finding the right couples therapist in Houston is not easy. Most couples therapists in Houston are so swamped with clients that they might not get back to you (I respond to every voicemail within 2 business days).

This means that it takes dedication on your part. You first have to do a bit of research to find a short list of couples therapists in Houston. After that, you'll probably be scheduling a free consultation call if the therapist offers that (I happen to offer a free 15-minute consultation call to determine if we are a great fit).

Are you patient?

If you put in the work during your marriage counseling sessions in Houston, you'll see a definite difference in your marriage. However you do have to be patient as change does not happen overnight. It has taken years to get your marriage to a place that doesn't feel good, so it will take more than 2 sessions to get your marriage to a place where you both feel understood and friendly again.

.If you are finally ready to take your marriage from a place of confusion and miscommunication to deeper friendship and understanding, click here to schedule a free 15 minute couples therapy consultation call with me.

Do this to sleep like a baby at night

I have always been a big believer in self advocacy. When you struggle with insomnia, it's important to try out different avenues so that you can perhaps figure out the cause of your insomnia. Here are 6 things you can do to help you sleep better at night.

1) Ask your doctor about your medications: Some medications can change your sleep cycle. If you are currently on any medications, it's important to have a discussion with your prescribing physician about how your medications could be affecting your sleep. But if you don't talk to your physician about sleep patterns, you could continue to struggle with sleep. Sometimes a little self advocacy cab go a long way.

Concerned about your sleep meds? Read more about sleep medication here. Insomnia and sleep Insomnia chronicles: The scary truth about those sleeping pills you take

2) Try journaling: Often times, anxiety or worries can bring on sleeplessness. If your mind is spinning around with worry thoughts, it is going to be difficult to get good quality sleep. About 30 minutes to an hour before your bed time, sit in a quiet spot and write out what's bothering you. Some people like to write in full sentences, while others use bullet points. If you're creative, you could even draw how you feel or write some poetry about it. The point of journaling is to wrap up your day and get your worries out on paper, so they stop swimming around in your head. 

While journaling, if important tasks for the next day pop up in your mind, it's also a great time to create a to do list for the next day. 

3) Avoid alcohol, nicotine and caffeine a few hours before bedtime: It is an erroneous thought to believe that a 'night cap' is actually helpful for sleep. Actually, alcohol, nicotine and caffeine can interrupt your sleep patterns and worsen your insomnia. In the case of caffeine, it has a half life of 5 hours. This means it takes 5 hours for half the amount of caffeine you drink to be fully metabolized (absorbed) into your system. If you drink multiple cups of coffee throughout the day, you are essentially layering more and more caffeine in your body. So, by night time, chances are all that caffeine is still in there keeping you awake.

And if you find yourself awake late at night, click here to read about Insomnia tips: 10 things to do when you can't sleep at night

4) Practice relaxation about an hour before bedtime: The concept is simple- a relaxed mind is calm, and calmness helps you sleep. But a worried and harried mind is a bad environment for sleep. Remember that your mind and your body are connected. About an hour before bedtime, do something relaxing. Some examples are yoga, medication, prayer, stretches, breathing techniques or listening to soothing music. Let's not forget your sense of smell. Try using a drop of your favorite essential oil and also putting on soft, cozy pajamas. It would also help if your sheets are cool, clean and soft. To help your sense of sight, dim the lights or close the blinds, so that your body's sleep mechanism can also be triggered.

5) Take a nap: Many people who struggle with insomnia or sleep disorders often feel a dip in energy in the middle of the day. If your schedule permits, try taking one 30-minute nap in the middle of the day. This helps to recharge you, but doesn't get you so awake that you cannot sleep at night. Although naps can be beneficial, avoid napping in the evening or too close to bedtime. If you do this, you'll be wide awake at night.  

There you have it. 5 easy tips to help you sleep like a baby. And if you're a woman in Murrieta or Temecula who has struggled with insomnia, and you're ready to sleep soundly again, click here to schedule a free 15 minute consultation call to see if CBT for insomnia is the right treatment for your insomnia. I also provide online sessions for women throughout California.

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