Will marriage therapy in Houston work for you?
When you are struggling in your marriage, it can feel like a stifling, never ending roller coaster. One day things look good, then out of the blue, arguments just show up. You can feel like you're having the same old argument over and over again.
Perhaps you've heard people talk about the wonders of couples therapy or marriage counseling. You’ve thought about it, but you don't know if it's going to be a waste of time or money.
Here's how to know if marriage therapy couples therapy in Houston will work for you.
Are you willing to tell the truth?
The process of marriage counseling is no joke. You have to be willing to tell the truth about your situation, and you have to be willing to talk about sore topics. If you are not 100% committed to telling the truth about past events, then marriage counseling will definitely not work for you.
Are you willing to do the marriage counseling homework?
If you happen to work with me, then you know that I give homework after every single session. I actually believe that most of the work of marriage counseling or couples therapy actually happens outside of session. But if you're willing to implement what you're actually learning in session and actually do the homework, then your marriage will see a drastic change. If you do not do the homework, then your marriage will continue to stay the same. But if you're willing to implement what you're actually learning in session and actually do the homework, then your marriage will see a drastic change.
Are you willing to change past habits and learn a new dance while you’re in couples therapy?
Most people come to marriage counseling because the patterns they have been used to for years are either destructive or are causing them a level of pain. The problem is because you are so used to the way things have been, you might not be willing to change them. Even though you don't like the way things are going, but your behavior has become a habit or maybe your behavior is now a part of your character. If you are willing to learn a new couple’s dance, then there is hope for your marriage.
Are you willing to do the work it takes to find the right couples therapist in houston for you and your spouse?
The process of finding the right couples therapist in Houston is not easy. Most couples therapists in Houston are so swamped with clients that they might not get back to you (I respond to every voicemail within 2 business days).
This means that it takes dedication on your part. You first have to do a bit of research to find a short list of couples therapists in Houston. After that, you'll probably be scheduling a free consultation call if the therapist offers that (I happen to offer a free 15-minute consultation call to determine if we are a great fit).
Are you patient?
If you put in the work during your marriage counseling sessions in Houston, you'll see a definite difference in your marriage. However you do have to be patient as change does not happen overnight. It has taken years to get your marriage to a place that doesn't feel good, so it will take more than 2 sessions to get your marriage to a place where you both feel understood and friendly again.
.If you are finally ready to take your marriage from a place of confusion and miscommunication to deeper friendship and understanding, click here to schedule a free 15 minute couples therapy consultation call with me.